Children learn a lot by imitation, especially from their closest role models: their parents. Therefore, if you want your child to be patient, you must be patient with him.
Start With Small Doses
If your child is still young, it is difficult for him to be silent for an entire hour while you are talking to someone. Patience is dosed, so initially you may want to start by asking him to be patient for five minutes. As he grows and develops self-control, you can demand more patience from him.
Use Reflective Listening
For a child, it is difficult to stay in line for long when they would rather be playing. Helping him verbalize what he is feeling will allow him to better cope with waiting. Therefore, listen to him with empathy and validate his feelings. Sometimes children just need their parents to pay attention and listen to them to shake off frustration and regain their cool.
Young children have no sense of time, so a minute or an hour is not too different for them. One strategy to help them be patient and delay rewards is to use timers. Hourglasses are ideal as they can also have a relaxing effect.But make sure you keep your promise when the time period runs out.
Teach Him Coping Skills
As the child grows, he must learn to deal with waiting with his own strategies. Explain that in many cases to achieve something you want, you need to wait and be patient. However, while you wait, you can do something you like, like draw or read a story.
Get Him Involved In Games And Activities That Require Patience.
One of the main disadvantages of electronic toys is that they accustom children to instant gratification. In fact, if your child has a hard time waiting for his turn to swing on the swing, for example, instead of avoiding the park you should visit more often to reinforce the need to be courteous and patient.
For a child, having patience basically comes down to learning that they have to control their emotions and actions, especially when they feel anxious, frustrated or tired. Therefore, teaching patience also implies promoting self-control. Before giving in to a request from your child, it is important that you ask him to regain some self-control. Giving in to tantrums, yelling or crying will not help you develop self-control and being more patient, on the contrary, it will reinforce the idea that if you act impatiently you can get what you want quickly.
Apply Intentional Delays
Parents sometimes have to delay some things on purpose, for no other reason than to teach their child to be patient and to strive for what they want. For example, if your child wants a puppy or a toy, it is not necessary to satisfy him immediately, he can wait for his birthday or Christmas.